How Money Can Be The Root Of All Evil In A Marriage
Monday, April 23rd, 2012 at
One of the many reasons of fights in a marriage is around finances and couples so often are unaware how to address the marriage and money . In a romantic relationship, no matter how much the couples love each other, it is not impossible for them to have quarrels regarding money.
Unfortunately, there are times when things get out of a hand. A simple disagreement regarding financial issues can turn into something that could destroy the marriage. Here are some of the ways how money can cause problems in mariage.
Man and Woman
Biologically and physically speaking, a man and a woman are different from each other. Psychologically speaking, a man thinks differently than a woman. A man and a woman have so many aspects that differ from one another. Because of these differences, money problems can arise. Men are very logical and women are emotional creatures.
A man and a woman have different points of view when it comes to money. A man sees money in a very different way than a woman does. He usually thinks of money as a source of confidence boost or a self-esteem boost and providing for his family. For a woman though, money is usually seen as a source of security in times of trouble because the number one thing a woman needs is certainty from her man. Because of this difference, which some couples are not even aware of can cause arguments.
Money Does Not Grow From Trees
It is usually the norm to let the man take all the responsibilities especially when it comes to financial responsibilities. This can be from purchasing a very expensive item to an extravagant dinner to a simple ice cream on hot sunny day. This can make man the man live up to the reputation of being a gentleman.
But sometimes he has to realize that money does not grow from trees. You need to work hard to earn money. And when the time comes that financial problems are at the doorsteps, arguments and fights come along with it. What used to be a very sweet and intimate relationship becomes a battleground for harsh words and sometimes physical violence.
Avoiding The MoneyTopic
Money is a very sensitive topic when it comes to relationships and you have to be aware that marriage and money go hand in hand. That is why some people try to avoid it hoping that they would be able to avoid fights over money. But avoiding the topic of money is just like running and trying to hide from the inevitable. And no matter how much you run and hide, it will someday find you.
When only one person in the marriage is involved with money matters, problems may arise. This usually happens when the not so financially involved person is caught off guard by their financial situation like their credit card limit has exceeded or items being purchased without his or her knowledge. So in marriage, it is very important that both parties have to partake in financial matters. Discussing financial matters together will also be a very big help in keeping the financial war at bay. Consult each other before doing any purchases and plan for your monthly expenditure and savings.
Shopping! Shopping! Shopping! This is usually the problem for persons with partners who are shopaholics they buy and buy and buy. This becomes a very problematic situation when this particular partner does not know how to prioritize the financial needs in the marriage. Instead of giving his or her share for the monthly bills, this person goes out and buys a designer set of clothes that he or she saw on television.
Prioritization is the main goal here. You must let your partner realize that there are more important things to take care of than buying and shopping for items.
Who Makes More Money
This topic is an age old problem for couples. And this is more prevalent in marriage wherein the woman makes more money than the man and the former tries to take control of the relationship with her financial prowess. Of course as a man, with thousands of years of developed pride he is unlikely to want to take this lying done. Sooner or later he will retaliate and when that happens, the love relationship becomes a bad relationship.
But whatever kind of problems relating to your marriage and money can be solved by communicating with each other. Do not let your negative emotions get the best of you. Learn how to listen and learn how to compromise.
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